A very wealthy man neglected his father in his old age with the excuse that the father did not send him to the university and should therefore not partake of his hard earned wealth. All entreaties from his kinsmen to forgive and help the father fell on deaf ears until the father disgracefully died of hunger. The wealthy man wanting to honour the dead father spent cash in millions to buy golden casket to bury his father who died of hunger due to lack of few cash in hundreds for his daily food. God knew there will be cases like this when He said “A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish man dispiseth his mother (prov.15:20)”.
Fathers’ day celebration is here again and as usual there will be gifts of flowers, post cards and goodwill messages of thoughtful lines that are only but a song from the lips of many meant to give our fathers a feeling that we care, a deceptive one day and to some, few minutes demonstration of outward respect and recognition called honour. To honour our biological and spiritual fathers, God expects us to take care of them daily, weekly or monthly with our substance when he said “Honour the LORD with thy substance, and with the first fruits of all thy increase: so shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine (Prov.3:9-10)”.
Our parents deserve to be taken care of always and not only at Christmas or special occasions like fathers’ day. We are commanded to give honour to our parents; both biological and spiritual. Some very religious ones may have adduced that honour is meant only for our parents in the Lord, concluding that unbelieving biological parents are disenfranchised from enjoying this divine command. My disagreement with this line of thought is predicated first on the word of God and secondly on the law of sowing and reaping.
God meant us to honour our biological parents and enjoy the blessing of long life when He said “Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee (Ex. 20:12)”. In several places in His word God places several punishments including flogging, a curse and outright death penalty to whoever despises or dishonours his or her parents. It is only a foolish son that will spend millions on a coffin that will rot in the ground after denying his parents the honour of sustenance from him when they were alive.
In the law of sowing and reaping, the husbandman (sower or farmer) must be the first partaker of the harvest and without someone to call biological father there will be no spiritual father or father in the Lord. Until you are given birth into this world by your biological parents you will not exist or live to become a believer with someone to call your father in the Lord… think about it.
I have a daughter in the Lord who remembers and honours me monthly with her substance and I accept it and remember her in my prayers because I know she takes care of her biological parents too. It will be impossible for me to encourage a child in the Lord to honour me as a father if I am not certain he or she does honour her biological parents first. Even when I feel very tired to remember anyone in my prayers I always remember her job, business and family. Ask your parents, that is the special privilege you enjoy when you honour your biological parents; they always remember the child that sends money for their upkeep first in their prayers before their other children. The truth is anything that affects her affects me and anything that affects her finances affects mine too.
As we celebrate this year’s father’s day, let us make a commitment to honour both our parents in the Lord and our biological parents regularly and as long as they live and our make subsequent Father’s and mother’s day celebrations will no longer be a lip service event but a life changing one that promises a reward of longevity and super abundance harvest in all our endeavours.